This month marks 4 years since I started my business!

4 whole amazing years of figuring it out, learning as I go, building something meaningful from scratch, and being stretched in ways I didn’t expect!

But before any of it began, I have to share, I almost didn’t launch my business!

I remember sitting at my desk, ready to share the announcement that the brand I had dreamed up was coming to life. I was nervously excited, and then, seemingly out of nowhere, SCREECH!!! I simply felt terrified.

That fear voice came rushing in big time!
"You're actually crazy to change careers."
"People won’t take you seriously."
"You’re not ready yet."
"But really, who do you think you are?"

I was on a call this week with a client who shared she's having a hard time making a BIG career decision. She kept referencing what her friends were saying, what her parents were telling her to do, and what her boyfriend believed was best for her. We paused for a moment, and I asked, "If you COULDN'T make a 'wrong' decision or disappoint anyone, what would you choose?"

And suddenly, poof, the answer became crystal clear to her!

This moment made me realize how often, as high achievers, we simply give our power away. We often seek advice, validation, and approval from people around us, many times without even realizing it! 

Two weeks ago in The Drop In Community, I opened our session with, "Today we're going to brag." and even though everyone was on mute, I could see a few gasps in the room!

I wasn't talking about the humble brag. The one where you sneak in something you’re proud of but quickly soften it with a little self-deprecation.

Nope. We truly bragged! We named what we’re here for, what we’re amazing at, and what we love about the way we show up in the world. And let me tell you, it was powerful.

Because here’s the thing: If you’re a high achieving woman, you were probably taught how to be accomplished, how to be kind, how to be likable. But I’d bet you weren’t taught how to brag.

This is a message for the deep feelers, the deep thinkers, the women who crave community centered on coming together to feel more fully alive.

Especially now, when connection is less of a suggestion, and more of a life force. 

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This is not just another call on your calendar
This is a calling.

This is for all the women who want
a space for themselves…

Here’s a deep truth I come back to again and again, to experience more flow in your life, you actually need more structure.

It might sound counterintuitive, but the amount of flow you desire requires an equal depth of structure to support it. 

If you're wanting:
✨ More expansion in your life this year
✨ More ease with projects
✨ More joy in relationships
✨ More creativity in how you approach things
✨ Or just all around more flow with how you move about your world
Then this Love Letter is especially for you. 

About eight months ago, I found myself reading a book on the science of embodiment in women’s bodies. From the very first chapter, I felt an undeniable pull—something about the author’s words resonated on a deeper level. Her insights felt different, almost like a call to action. I knew I had to learn more about her.

Within ten minutes of diving deeper, I had signed up for an intimate women’s embodiment retreat she was hosting.

I want to share something with you that feels both important and vulnerable  - especially this time of year when we’re bombarded with goal setting strategies and “new year, new you” energy.

Here’s the personal story I want to share with you today:

I actually know firsthand what it feels like to dive straight into a new year without carving out the time or the space to ground myself. And I’m not talking about 10 years ago when I was burning the candle at both ends, I’m talking about ONE year ago!

How are you feeling as we close out 2024 today?

As in how are you REALLY feeling?

If you’re like me, most of my clients, and many of the women inside The Drop In - things feel complex and nuanced. We’re juggling massive tension, and honestly…? We’re feeling a little spicy about it.

So today as we close out the year, I want to lean into this.

Yesterday was the Winter Solstice, which is the shortest day in of the year and true start to this season. Winter is the time to slow down, honor rest, and trust in the unseen cycles of creation. Like the trees and the frozen earth, we are invited to conserve energy, nourish ourselves, and honor what happens in the space of the unseen. Winter holds space for deep reflection and quiet growth in the fertile void, allowing us to recharge and reconnect with our inner wisdom. Welcome, this is the sacred energy of Winter. 

I imagine you might be feeling the full out end-of-year push right now

Trying to squeeze every last drop of our energy into holiday parties, work deadlines, and checking everything off the list before midnight on December 31st.

But instead of getting caught up in the rush, I have a different ask of you:

What would it mean to finish this year with intention?

If your inbox is like mine - it’s blasted with either Black Friday promotions or words of gratitude.

While I don’t have a Black Friday sale to bring you right now (sigh of relief!), I DO have a non-traditional take on gratitude during this Thanksgiving week.

This year, I’m feeling pulled toward gratitude for the things that didn’t work out. The unexpected twists, u-turns and plot twists in life.

If you’ve been feeling A LOT this week…SAME!

The Too Muchness of the world is very heavy right now.

Post election, hate in the world, wars, devastating natural disasters…. Not to mention the holidays are quickly approaching and maybe you're navigating complexity of time with family.

There’s something really transformative about being in community, right?

About leaning on one another, not only for connection but also for support. Where you’re feeling “Ahhh yes, these are my people!”

It reminds me of a time when I was redecorating my entire bedroom and wanted it to feel way more cozy, luxurious, and inviting.

We’re designed for connection, Jennifer.

Do you fully know AND believe that?

I’m talking the deeply feeling, deeply thinking, be-your-fullest-self kind of connection.

And yet, we tend to spend so much of our lives on the surface.

Sticking to small talk and rushing through conversations when we’re actually craving something SO much deeper.

If you feel this way too, you might not even know what to call what you’re craving. How about we call it what it is - community.

Can you finish this sentence for me?

“When I have  _________, then I’ll be able to relax.”

What I’m getting at is, what are you actually chasing? I used to feel like I was always chasing something - rushing and running everywhere.

To the subway, to appointments, to client meetings, to brunch with friends, even to yoga.

I was always trying to squeeze out the last minute of things - which of course, I later learned was a conditioned stress response.

And during my time in the advertising world, I felt this to my core. Feeling like I was on a treadmill racing through every single day! 

When I first heard this phrase, let me tell you, it really triggered me! 

“Pressure is your own creation.”

Was it suggesting that I was personally responsible for every ounce of pressure that I had ever felt? That I had sent MYSELF dozens of urgent emails before 9AM? That my 100+ hour a week schedule was my own fault?

I went to sleep that night getting curious about why this phrase rubbed me the wrong way.

If “me time” lately looks like multitasking at the grocery store while catching up on calls or trying to get ahead on emails the moment your eyes open, I see you. And if your idea of self care is almost sitting down with a good book but then getting lost in your phone instead. Or perhaps your idea of self care has turned into just barely squeezing in a shower.

Well, I’m here to tell you that real space for YOU is not about doing things for everyone else. It's about truly taking time for yourself!

Last week, I shared something on my IG that really resonated with a lot of people, it said:Time isn’t the main reason holding you back from self-care. What’s really holding you back is your nervous system never fully learned how to receive!

The response was a whole lot of love, I assume because this message touches on a key truth. We often believe that time is the most precious, scarce commodity we’ll never get back. While that might be true, it’s not the main reason many women struggle to create space for themselves.

If you’ve been feeling the swirl of life lifeing around you, and feeling like this season, or rather this chapter of your life feels like A LOT no matter where you turn…keep reading. 

If you’re a high achiever, who’s also deeply intuitive and feel that space for you, is few and far between these days…keep reading.

I’ve been having this conversation too many times with clients this week to not share with you too. The question I've been hearing lately is: "how do I tap into more abundance?"

I'll answer that with some potent action steps below, but before I go there, I'll tell you why this convo is relevant right now.

Summer energy is rooted in the feelings of abundance, expansion and opportunity. Naturally, if you want more of this energy in your life, this is the season to tap into this mindset.