Self Honoring & Mother’s Day
I’m choosing to take space this weekend away from social media. Lately, I love connecting with people there and sharing inspiration, so to help myself truly commit to this decision, I’m also taking the apps off my phone for a few days! I have to admit, I feel a little silly saying all this because it’s not as if I think you’d notice. I’m sharing this more so to reveal the intention behind this decision with you.
This weekend is Mother’s Day in this part of the world. Many of you know we lost my mom 6 and half months ago after a long battle with cancer. So this is my very first Mother’s Day without her. No matter where I was or how busy my life felt, I always made sure to be next to my mom on Mother’s Day. I know that she’s “here” in other ways, but this weekend I’m not going to buy her flowers and head off to Boston to give her a hug. I simply don't know how I'm going to feel, so I’m making some extra space this weekend for whatever that may be.
So this year, one of the things I’m doing to help create that extra space is making the self honoring choice not be on social media. Sometimes we think of self honoring as taking a lovely bath, booking yourself a massage, taking a walk in nature or carving out alone time. And those are all wonderful things that you may choose to do. And self honoring can be just as much about the things we DON’T do, as it is about the things we DO do.
Mother’s Day can surely be a complicated holiday for many. Maybe you have a beautiful relationship with your mom or children and maybe it also feels simultaneously tricky. Maybe you feel strained with your mother or maybe you’ve lost your mom too. Maybe you’re desiring to be a mom or lost a pregnancy or a child. Maybe motherhood just doesn’t feel like you thought it would or maybe you don’t have the right words for what you’re feeling now. Or maybe it’s something else that’s entirely personal to you. However you tenderly relate to this day, let’s honor it all. I have my hand on my heart for those who are feeling a little extra something during this time, I’m right there with you.
I wrote this poem last Mother’s Day and will leave it here as we go into the weekend. Happy Mother’s Day to all the beautiful Moms out there!
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A Poem on Mothers
A mother is
depth and devotion
and desire to seek
and allow a moving
forward. New forms
new cartwheels
and new buds to
to bloom. An ever changing
landscape.
My love. I love you
more than you'll ever
know, until the
cycle cycles again.
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With ♡ and gratitude,
Jennifer